Raise happy children
Every mother's desire is to have happy kids and provide them with all that is necessary to live a good life, with no fear, constraint, stress and affection. Although it is almost impossible to fully achieve this goal, we do everything in our power to protect this tiny angels from the unkindness of the outside world.God knows what mixture of feelings is inside a mother's heart, and how her concerns are intensifying as time goes by; and at every moment, we realize that little by little we must let them go, and not necessarlily because we have to, but because they want to and need it.
We are like lions from the day they are born, and since that moment, we promise to ourselves to make them happy no matter what.
But what is happiness for our children? We are sometimes tragic, because we've learned that people around us are mean and evil minded, and, from our anxiety to protect them, we forget that their world is so inocent and it is so unfair to break it down. I've created a world of fantasy for my children since the first day of their life. I've put magic in every little thing, in every conversation with them, in every toy they had. Everything we've done together was connected to little magic stories, fairies, characters...And I've also teached them and still do it that, every little thing, toy, plant, person, has something good in it, and that, if we want to, every little thing could take shape.
This is the world I wanted to create for my children and I think that, with every stage, a part of these features should stay there, in their minds, because the world is cruel anyway, and the pureness should live forever. This is childhood and if we want to have self-confident, self-controlled, auto-motivated and positive children, it is necessary to build for them a positive world. Maybe it sounds wild, but, with every stage of development, we could point with examples from the real world, so they could understand there are bad things happening, too, like in the stories we are reading in the evening (with witches, princesses, good or bad characters).
Dangerous world out there
Am I the only one who feels this world is so dangerous for my little ones? I guess every normal parent worries about the safety of his children and there are so many bad things happening, that you feel like going crazy only to the thought that your child could get hurt or be involved in something unimaginable.
Today, you can't trust anyone, from the staff in nurseries, to the people you actually know. There are so many sick minds, that it actually make you think "Can I even trust the authorities?". There are so many horrible news about rapists who seem so normal people when you see them on the streets, and ask yourself how can you raise a normal child in a dangerous and defective society.
The other day I saw some news about a rapist who was actually a police-man. What's wrong with this world? It is intolerable. You send your child to kindergarten and hear news that some boy or girl has been abused by some employee, or by some sick person on the streets, when older. Then, what should we tell our children about this atrocities?
The other day I saw some news about a rapist who was actually a police-man. What's wrong with this world? It is intolerable. You send your child to kindergarten and hear news that some boy or girl has been abused by some employee, or by some sick person on the streets, when older. Then, what should we tell our children about this atrocities?
Is it good or bad to teach them about this from their early childhood? My older daughter of six already knows the theory about bad people: "Don't talk to strangers!", "Don't trust the strangers!", "Strangers don't have good intentions!", "Ask for help when needed!", "Always ask for the help of the people in uniforms!", etc. But, practically, she is only a child, and, I'm not sure she understands the cause and effect of the examples I give her in the everyday life. I feel bad that we have to blur the image they have about this world. Children are inoccent, and childhood is the most beautiful part of life. Unfortunately, it is our duty, as parents, to make them feel secure, but, in this way, we clip their wings, as we become too protective, and here comes the question: IS IT GOOD OR BAD TO RAISE SELF-DEPENDENT CHILDREN from early childhood? How can we raise positive, self-esteem and auto-motivated children in this world?